I’m Back! With The Love Dare!

Um…so, miss me?

Sorry, guys, for my unscheduled break.  Nothing horrible or intense was going on–just me being busy adjusting to a new house, married life, careers, etc.  That is, all joyful stuff.    And my poor Heathen Critique went on unexpected hiatus.

But I was reminded recently that now that things are getting settled and our life together is in an awesome place, I should refocus on the unique things in my life that bring me joy (no, I was not reminded just by Marie Kondo!), and so I have brought in a little project my husband, Hank, and I have been working on…

Picture of The Love Dare


For those of you unfamiliar with this great work, it’s a marriage-rescue book, perhaps best known for being featured (after a fashion), in Fireproof, in which Kirk Cameron demonstrates to us all that it’s great to manipulate and bully your wife, as long as you’re an RTC while doing it!

Full review here

It’s hard to believe that I reviewed Fireproof all the way back in 2014.  Back in my single days, going on a bunch of internet blind dates and figuring that if I didn’t end up meeting anyone, I’d find a way to have a kid all on my own…

And then, one beautiful evening, one of those internet blind dates turned out to be the love of my life.

So never let it be said that atheists don’t know the meaning of true love…

Yeah, we’re kinda totally April and Andy.

And Anne and Gilbert.

Okay, so as might be apparent, I am pretty much crazy in love.  And I just double-checked with Hank this moment:

Me: Are you in love with me?

Hank [playing Fortnite]:  Oh, yeah.  Lots.

So we might not necessarily be the ideal couple to do The Love Dare (hereinafter TLD), but I admit that back in 2014, I dreamed of having a partner, just so we could do the stupid RTC Love Dare shit together!

And now we can!!!

So, without further ado (yanno, other than the six-month break), on to the Introduction!

Blah blah blah, wax on about love, it’s a “beautiful, precious gift,” “designed and created” by God Himself.

He uses marriage to help us eliminate loneliness, multiply our effectiveness, establish families, raise children, enjoy life, and bless us with relational intimacy.

Oh ho ho, I think I can decipher RTC code.  Relational intimacy, indeed.

Then they just lay out the format for the dares:

Part One is where “a unique aspect of love will be discussed.”  Spoiler Alert: it is discussed in a very repetitious manner.

Part Two is the dare itself.  “Take each dare seriously—

Okay, another Spoiler Alert: this is actually a very difficult thing to do.

And finally, journal space.  Um…that’s what this blog will be for.

So, please join us, dear and loyal and very patient readers, as Hank and Ruby, deliriously in love atheist newlyweds (does over a year still count as newlyweds?  I’m saying yes), as we embark upon a journey meant to heal broken RTC marriages!

I suspect hijinks and swearing will be involved.

Posted on July 1, 2019, in The Love Dare. Bookmark the permalink. 9 Comments.

  1. Welcome back and Gratz Ruby.

    “multiply their effectiveness”
    The math geek in me notes they never state it’ll be multiplied by a number greater than 1.

    • InquisitiveRaven

      Well, I suppose it could be multiplied by zero. Oh right, that’s not a number greater than one.

  2. Welcome back! And I’m really glad it’s working for you. Being married is one of the best things that’s happened to me…

    Relational intimacy has to be the last thing on the list, of course. You’re not supposed to enjoy it.

    Wow, this is seriously pop-psych-level stuff. On a random sample, most of it seems to come down to “be nice to your spouse”. Gee, I’d never have thought of that.

  3. I’m glad you’re back. I’m already getting the feeling that the relationship advice in this book is going to be a big bunch of “stuff you probably shouldn’t do to/with the person you love”.

  4. Wait, nonfic? How am I supposed to become engaged in hating a lame character and their stupid choices if there are no characters and no narrative?

  1. Pingback: Deconstruction Round Up, All Deconstructions | The Slacktiverse

  2. Pingback: Deconstruction Roundup for July 5th, 2019 | The Slacktiverse

  3. Pingback: Deconstruction Roundup for July 12th, 2019 | The Slacktiverse

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: